A thread unravels from the edges of her old shirt in the dryer and winds tightly around the cuff of a stray sock, collecting bits of lint like a magnet. Cupping it in her hands, she decides it looks more like a ball of yarn she accidentally threw in the dryer than a sock; an apt metaphor for her life.
Lately, she is a tangled collection of incomplete thoughts, unfinished sentences, and curious questions that threaten to strangle her inner voice. Grasping her purse dangling from a hook in the kitchen with one hand, she tosses the sock on top of the laundry heap with the other and drives to the beach while her family sleeps. A brisk walk along the sea is good for sorting out the knots.
The sandy landscape of the shore looks different at morning tide giving hints of the unseen battlefield raging in the dark waters beneath, like the ebb and flow of pieces of her floating to the surface. Today, starfish scatter among stray shells; their arms curl up toward the sun. As she steps over their remains, her heart reaches to the Light too, like a woman longs for the sign of her lover’s return on the horizon, the warmth of his familiar embrace.
But today He seems distant. She writes letters in her thoughts; a series of questions pervading hallowed space, knowing His answers may be prolonged. And she resolves herself to it.
She admits: I don’t know how to parent teenagers; the landscape of their lives is different today than it was even last week. And why do I feel like I’m losing my voice? The cadence that sings of you in lyrical melodies now hums shallow, void of eloquence. I fear you’ve left me standing alone on the shore without a life boat. How long until you return?
He answers: You must first lose your life to find it. Sometimes that means dying to your familiar voice and the way you’ve come to know yourself as a mother. You must die to who you think you are in order to find yourself in me.
Surprised by the swiftness of His voice, she grieves her own forgetfulness about the simple petals of truth opened in the glory days of her youth. Her legs wilt at the base of the groin, knees press into wet sand, and her head bows over the rugged sea swept altar as petulant waves pop like champagne corks randomly unleashed.
Bending over, she surrenders herself to Him again.
And their conversation continues further down shore. He asks her a question: What would you do if perception (the perceptions of others) weren’t a consideration in your life and you trusted that I love you for exactly who you are?
Freedom. The only word bubbling to the surface. She would be free to be herself, she thought.
Afterward, she returns to her quiet house, closes her eyes to think before writing out her thoughts and remembers the starfish. A curious unrelenting nudge to look up the meaning of the sea creature fills her mental space. Now, go look it up now, she feels herself think.
She does and tears drip down her cheeks in reading: The starfish can represent guidance and direction. It is a symbol of love, intuition, and vigilance. The starfish is also able to grow limbs back that are damaged from the environment or predators. Because of this, the starfish is a symbol of rebirth and healing. The starfish represents positive change and salvation through trying times.
The sharp edges of Truth cut her free from the tangled knots of her thinking so she can breathe again.
She was wrong.
He wasn’t silent, but loving her all along, from the first moment she stepped on shore, over the starfish.
And her voice returned.
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‘A brisk walk along the sea is good for sorting out the knots.’ And in those words, Shelly, you have captured truth deeper than the sea itself …
Ah, thank you Linda. Thanks for being here friend.
you brush up against a meaningful truth here, Shelly. one that we must return to over and over, i think. Margaret Mitchell (author of Gone with the Wind) said it like this: “With enough courage, you can do without a reputation.”
your walk – returning to the timeless rhythms of deep ocean stirrings – such a beautiful surrender. such a beautiful becoming who you were all along.
(oh, and btw, i think third person worked very nicely for this story 🙂 )
I’m glad you think so Kelli, it felt a bit odd writing it that way here, but right. There is something about the sea, its like an altar of worship for me, a place where His presence is palpable..
And just when I thought I couldn’t possibly love the beach anymore, it breathes new life into my soul. And the starfish is my brand new favorite sea creature.
I’m sure I won’t see a starfish quite the same ever again Nancy. He breathes new meaning and the mystery unfolds continually. I never stop being wonderstruck by His goodness.
This life is full of seasons…each season teaches us of Him and ourselves…and as I age, I understand through His LOve…a dismantling must take place…old scaffolding of my thoughts…beliefs about Him and myself and with world we live in must come down…and as this happens I now have an anticipating joy because I know new freedom comes to fill the spaces taken up by old bars that kept my thoughts in prison. Yes…His love is always as work in every season. blessings and freedom my friend.
It’s actually quite a beautiful ugly process I think. One I’m grateful for, yes indeed.
Gah! Shelly. This is achingly beautiful. While Im not parenting teenagers yet, I wither sometimes under the weight of this motherhood thing, and how will I ever get it right, and is it enough, am I enough? What does enough even look like? And I see it clearly this morning, Christ. Christ is who holds us in the crazy of our days. Thank you, my friend. You’ve set off a rambling in my heart…
I was thinking about that question he posed about letting go of perceptions and how much that being enough stuff effects so many areas of life. It is a bit of a brain twist to actually get a grip on what it looks like to live that kind of freedom. But I’m trying to, one step at a time. Rambling with you . . .
Shelly, first off, I agree with Kelli–the 3rd person voice sounded perfect for this. Second–the joy at hearing Jesus speak to you through the ‘just so happens’ characteristics of a starfish–ah, He is so good.
Three–my ‘aha’ moment of feeling free? It has been a series of moments, opening up my vision to see God in the every day–I am spending so many more moments watching the light on the trees or noticing the streaks of reflection in a stream of dishsoap. (That probably sounds mundane, but there is amazingness in the ordinary. Truly.)
I am also, through LL’s book, learning to let go of what I think ‘Christian’ looks like and letting God decide for me, according to his wide wonderful world, how to open myself to possibilities–for discovery in the word and in my own life.
Nothing so lovely there as your starfish, but I’d say it probably began with the chickadees outside my window….
I love hearing about the evolution of your “seeing” anew Jody. It’s so rich and inspiring. Chickadees, starfish – God uses them all to speak of His love for us.
“Oh, how He loves you and me….” How He reveals Himself through His creation in personal and miraculous ways is like a lifting of the veil…if only for a moment…but we are forever changed. Beautiful, Shelly. Simply beautiful.
Nothing more fulfilling than being aware of that moment when he lifts the veil Patricia. Can’t think of anywhere I’d rather be, can you? Thank you.
wow… I was going to leave a comment, but I’m honestly at a loss of words…
I think I feel free most every time I hear His voice. Because to hear it reminds me He is in charge and I am not. He is ever present, ever loving, ever God. And I am not. Which is why I so desperately need Him and long to hear Him.
I feel the same way Jen.
I am free when I can let go of me – my thoughts and ideas and actually listen to God. Then I know peace.
Blessings,
Janis http://www.janiscox.com
speechless…
And now you’ve made me cry.
Glad it was in a good way.
Only when I embrace all I am in him. So hard sometimes. This is beautiful.
Thanks for leaving a comment Lisa, I appreciate it.
Loving this powerful message this morning. Especially the Starfish. I love it when God uses nature to speak to our hearts. Great work!!
He speaks through what he creates often with me Leslie, which is something I’ve grown into over the years.
I so get this – the raising of the teen, the challenges, the just wanting to go Home to Him – and how our kids look at us during rebellion is NOT who we are – and the seeking to find me through Him. I think he seems far away when He wants us to draw closer – and, I think, too – that our children were prepared for these times – that He didn’t leave them ill-equipped for these challenges – that when He formed them, planned their days – He knew the challenges they would face – and equipped them for it:)
I think He equips us for each season. I can remember feeling this way when I gave birth, the first day they went to school, when they started driving . . . and He has always been faithful to lead me, even when I feel inadequate. Thankful for my wonderful kids.
Sigh…breathing in the loveliness of your words…I always love to go to the beach…wish I lived closer to one…Thanks, Shelly, for your heart shared here 🙂
I don’t take living five minutes away from the beach for granted. It is truly a gift I’ll take for as long as He has me here. Thanks for being here Dolly, appreciate you.
In all of my excitement knowing this month I will spend time with both my west coast nephew (age 6) and my east coast nephew (almost 2) I am reminded of how kids are so great at just freely being who they are. In fact it’s we the adults who are constantly saying “okay now that’s enough” and usually with good reason (if they go any further they will fall off the back porch or an extra cookie will mean a stomach ache, etc.) . But kids know all about freedom and it’s interesting that as God’s adult kids we do struggle with embracing the liberty that comes with Him being in charge, knowing He is the giver of every good and perfect gift, in times of distress he freely gives wisdom when we ask. I think in Christ we have more freedom than we often know what to do with. I think one of those freedoms is to be exactly who created us to be, who he has and continues to love us to be is one of the best freedoms we have every single day.
Thanks for sharing!
I think you are right Ahyana, I am resting in all your words here dripping with truth like a towel saturated in a tidal wave of his kindness.
Oh, just lovely. How your words stir the bittersweet, my friend. Freedom seems to be that thing I keep reaching for lately; for, although I am free in Christ, it seems all the noise of life keeps me strapped most days. But your words here help me unfetter. Thank you.
I feel the same way Laura. Today my head is swimming with so many thoughts in so many areas of life. I am exhaling a bit and remembering what freedom feels like again. I have to be reminded often.
The sea is good for the soul. I needed this today, Shelly. Thank you.
Yes, it truly is Mary. There is something about it that stirs me in deep places, unlike anything else.
Uplifting story. Our heart mends and expands as the predators of this life take a piece of it, often deliberately seeking to do damage, but the hand of our Father heals us much like He does the starfish. We become stronger, wiser, and blessed in the difficulties of this life.
We’re on teenager number three… and I still don’t have a clue. The heart of caring from God does the brunt of the work I believe.
I wish you weren’t right about the difficulties, but I haven’t met anyone yet that hasn’t had to go through them to become who God created them to be.
It’s nice to know we’re both clueless and God’s grace is sufficient. Thanks for being here Floyd.
How beautiful. You have a wonderful way with words. Thank you for sharing, and reminding us of who our identities truly rests in.
Thank you Claire.
I was right there with you, on my knees, feeling the good Lord whispering love straight into me, as He did with you. So grateful for this, Shelly. And for you…
I’m so glad you felt it Jennifer. May His peace carry you today and know you are loved. Grateful for you too friend.
“What would you do if perception (the perceptions of others) weren’t a consideration in your life and you trusted that I love you for exactly who you are?
Freedom. The only word bubbling to the surface. She would be free to be herself, she thought.”
🙂 I love this. So often, I have struggled with putting what other people says about me as my identity or what defines me. The more I seek God, the more He removes all that weight, and heals abundantly.
It has even changed my morning times, for now I want to read the word to know who God says He is, and who God says I am, and who God says the people I am about to encounter are… It is so enlightening, and I feel as if my soul has woken up. Thank you for posting this. You write so lovely!! 🙂
Ashley
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