marriage, church, religion, christianity, perspectives, morals

Why should we get married if financially our partner has all the benefits of a married partner? We’ve spoon fed our future generation through television shows and movies justifying immoral behavior. As Star Parker aptly explored in her book Uncle Sam’s Plantation the lack of morality in our country has robbed us of many things like self-respect while society deteriorates and becomes more ‘me-centered.’

“I’m at this crisis. It appears to me more and more that marriage is not really relevant today. So for example, if you truly love someone and completely trust someone, he’s your confidant and your soul mate — why do you need a marriage to ascertain this?  Perhaps marriage was relevant centuries ago, when a lot of good things came along with one — safety, financial, sexual, etc. But if one can very much have all of these things anyways and do just fine alone…then why do we still marry?” said a young woman on Yahoo Answers.

The answer to this young woman’s question astounded me.  It astounded me more that she would ask that question on Yahoo Answers instead of gleaning from wiser counsel:

‘People wed because they aren’t as secure about their emotions towards their loved ones as you and I, and require a formal document to remind them of how they feel, or should I say, how they’re supposed to feel.’

Laws are passed to provide for ‘life partners’ (i.e. those who want to live together).  This strips away the respect of marriage. Living rather than marrying someone stems in most cases from the wounds in our souls.

Star Parker reminds us in her book, “The new rules insisted morality could be self-defined depending upon one’s circumstances, environment experiences, culture, economics, or personal choice. “You cannot legislate morality” is the sound bite thrown around by those demanding autonomy and liberation from the religious roots of law.  Political groups such as the ACLU and Americans United For the Separation of Church and State have precipitated major legal battles to ensure that any vestige of religion is removed from public property or public discourse, and most importantly from public education.”

I believe there’s a connection between our thoughts about marriage and God.  In Revelation 22:17, “The Spirit and the bride say, “Come!” And let the one who hears say, “Come!” Let the one who is thirsty come; and let the one who wishes take the free gift of the water of life.” Often, Christ is referred to as the “Bridegroom.” We are His bride.  But if we view marriage as “just a piece of paper,” how are we viewing God?  It seems like those who believe and continue to live intentionally in sin don’t enjoy that close relationship with Christ.  We don’t trust Him with our future and therefore, have one foot next to the open door.

Dr. Del Tacket of the Truth Project says, “Marriage is, therefore, no less a part of God’s creation than the moon or stars or fish of the sea. And, as are all the social systems that God has made, it, too, is a reflection of His own nature. And if this is the case, then it is not simply a capricious, evolved social arrangement open to our fickle or selfish designs.  The family is one of those: the diversity of a man and a woman brought together in a unity so intimate that God declares they are “one flesh”—and not to be separated.”

It’s scary to trust a man with your entire life. It’s scary to trust God. I believe if you look back on your past that you’ll find where your distrust budded. If you look carefully, you might see where your fear of commitment has touched other areas of your life like broken commitments and promises. A marriage is so much more than a piece of paper. It’s more relevant than this world realizes.  It’s about a relationship with God.

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by Nikole Hahn time to read: 3 min