i didn’t make myself an orphan (reflections from #AfricaWH day four)

orphan, rwanda, genocide museum

Written by Dan King

Christ-follower. husband. father. author of the unlikely missionary: from pew-warmer to poverty-fighter. co-author of activist faith: from him and for him. director of family ministry at st. edward's episcopal church. president of fistbump media, llc.

January 20, 2014

orphan, rwanda, genocide museum

Today was a one of the most difficult and most anticipated days for me on this trip.

It was difficult because I knew I’d be visiting the Kigali Genocide Museum. It’s a memorial built to help Rwanda (and the world) never forget the tragic history that resulted in over 1,000,000 people being brutally massacred twenty years ago as a means of ethnic cleansing.

It was greatly anticipated because of the amount of research I’ve done as I prepared to write the chapter on War, Terrorism, and Genocide for Activist Faith. That was an important chapter for me to write because of my service in the United States Marine Corps. Dealing with war is a tricky issue for Christians, but there’s no confusion over the fact that genocide is purely an evil act. So to be here, in this place, was going to be a special time for me on this trip.

orphan, rwanda, genocide museum

Rwanda has a rich and often turmoiled history. Tribal pride has led to an escalating division over the course of many years. This division and hatred, mixed with ruling power, created an explosive situation resulting in the belief that ethnic cleansing was an appropriate response to pay back the other tribe for their mistreatment when they were in power.

I’m not here to give a full history lesson the cause and other underlying issues related to the genocide. However, I do want to talk about the people, and how the genocide affected so many people, and will continue to do so for a few more generations (at least).

The ugly reality is that a large part of the population of Rwanda was brutally murdered. And with the great number of deaths, it’s easy to forget about the individual victims affected by this tragedy.

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One room I stepped into has a collection of photos of the victims placed there by surviving family members. As I entered the room, there were two men already there; a priest, and a much older gentleman. The older man carried a cane, and stood staring at one particular section of photos (pictured above). The massive scar across the top of his head seemed to indicat that he’d been through some sort of physical trauma. I can only speculate, but I wonder if he was a victim who maybe survived some brutal beatings during the genocide. It reminded me how personal this was for many people in this country.

Another section of the museum featured child victims of the genocide.

One in particular caught my attention. Her name was Fillette Uwase, Age 2 (the same age as my daughter). The plaque in front of her display highlighted a few facts about her. Favorite toy… doll. Favorite food… rice and chips. Best friend… her dad. Cause of death… smashed against a wall.

orphan, rwanda, genocide museum

Many men, women, and children were mercilessly murdered. But those are not the only victims of that dark time in Rwanda’s history. The genocide created many widows and orphans. In fact, there were entire villages of children left to care for themselves. Children as young as 12 and 13 taking on the responsibility of caring for and raising their siblings.

At the end of the section of child victims is a plaque that reads,

It’s a reminder that the children affected by these events, whether it’s genocide, or HIV/AIDS, or other poverty-related issues, are victims too. None of them asked for the situation they are in. None of them deserve it either. Growing up without ever knowing who your parents (and/or siblings) are is a nightmare for these children.

And it reminds me of why we’re here. We are here to lift up the cause of the orphan. We are here to lift up the arms of the people who dedicate their lives to caring for these children who have no one else to care for them.

This is why I do what I do. And this is why I hope to bring you along with me. This is a cause worth fighting for.

Will you join me?

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14 Comments

  1. Emily Reachingbeyondmyreach

    Wow. This is so powerful, Dan. I can only compare this in my mind to my visits to the Holocaust Museum in D.C. I remember the gut wrenching emotions I felt the first time I saw the piles of shoes leftover from those who had been incinerated. Yet, it seemed a bit removed by time the first time I saw that. I realize it wasn’t all that long ago, but this that you’ve seen…these are MY generation of people. That hits so close to home. Thank you so much for being a voice for those who were left behind with scars on their bodies and hearts alike. I love what you said about lifting their arms for them b/c of their weakness…reminds me of when Aaron and others had to help hold Moses’ arms up to keep the victory for the Israelites. Keep lifting these people’s arms up, Dan. The Lord sees it and desires victory for these weary, wounded souls.

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    • Dan King

      I’m glad you mentioned Aaron lifting the arms of Moses. That’s exactly what had been on my heart (and much of our team) throughout the trip. I’m just honored to be in the presence of so many people of great faith, and I pray that I do them justice with my piece of work here…

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  2. Elizabeth Stewart

    My brother served as a missionary in Uganda and then in Rwanda about a decade after the genocide. Sometimes my heart can’t even handle thinking about what we do to one another in this sin-sick world. Thank you for what you are doing to make a difference.

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    • Dan King

      I can only pray that my work in these places makes a little bit of difference. I’m humbled when I think of the great faith of the men and women and children who have survived these kinds of events. I’m still in awe of what these heroes of the faith have been able to do…

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  3. SimplyDarlene

    I don’t have words enough, but only God-grande love enough – to share.

    Thank you for this piece.

    Blessings.

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    • Dan King

      thank you for reading this piece. i pray it continues to challenge and inspire the way i know much of Activist Faith has challenged and inspired you!

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  4. 1lori_1

    Dan….I have read books about these events, and tried to imagine how they could happen, and yet words fail, it all starts in the human heart, and we all know there is only one cure for that…..Jesus. I can’t imagine how it would be to see that, be there, meet the people. Stand where all those events took place. Bless you and all the other bloggers for being there. Lori

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    • Dan King

      it was very surreal being there, to roam the same places where i know people ran with clubs and machettes intent on wiping people out because of their bloodline. And you are right… Jesus is the cure, the source of making it right, the source of forgiveness and redemption…

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  5. Melinda Todd

    Seriously Dan, that little sign is exactly what has been on my heart for a year now (regarding orphans and my own experience with them in Haiti). That put it into words so very well. I so appreciate your heart and words. Thank you for giving these beautiful beings words. Powerful stuff, dude!

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    • Dan King

      thank you melinda! and i’ve been to haiti several times over the last few years, so i can totally relate with the whole orphan perspective there too.

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  6. dukeslee

    No words. Just … thank you for sharing this. Quieted by this post .

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    • Dan King

      it still makes me weep, even now… i have a feeling i’ll be quieted and weeping over this one for a while.

      thank you.

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i didn’t make myself an orphan (reflections from #AfricaWH day four)

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