I don’t struggle with “no”. I find “no” easy, peasy and examples abound:
Do you want to go to the movies?
Will you babysit my kids?
Can you drive me to the airport?
Will you be a part of our committee?
But recently, I offered help, and someone told me, “Sure, and in addition to helping, you can also do this, this, this, and this, and I’m not going to lie, I felt taken advantage of, even if it was in the name of good.”
Now, my no’er must have been asleep because I neglected to say “no”.
Maybe I didn’t say “no” because I was taken by surprise or maybe I didn’t say “no” out of guilt, but regardless, I said nothing.
Instead, I grew resentful. I placed my resentment in a flowerpot, and I fed and watered it daily. Then, I made certain my resentment obtained enough sun to thrive. I even sprinkled it with fertilizer. Soon, my resentment took up so much space that it took over my back deck, and I regretted offering to help in the first place.
While we all desire to , sometimes the most important word to consider is “no”.
What about you? Can you think of a time when your no-er broke and you ended up resenting your yes?